The church needs to be a safe place for this conversation regardless if you’ve had sex multiple times or have never thought about it.
Once you learn how something is made, you understand it better.
Everyone is on different parts of the spectrum regards to sex
2 different sides :
The church makes sex seem like the BIGGEST sin you can commit
Modern culture makes it seem like it’s no big deal
1) God made sex
You want to have it because God made you that way
2) God made you
Decisions you make in a relationship are always connected to how you see yourself
Psalms 139:14 [I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;your works are wonderful, I know that full well]
If you even think about your sin ( example - adultery) you messing up
Jesus cares about the state of our hearts and minds
How you see people around you matters. God wants more for us than to think of people as objects
Objects : clothes , electronics - are made to be used and consumed
People are not made to be used or discarded . They are meant to be valued
- It’s on US. Not the other person's fault
- Am I treating them like a product or a person ?
We are called to love people and use objects . Not the other way around .
- It all starts with valuing and honoring people